No doubts looks is the first thing that attracts us to someone. But once this initial phase of “feelings in the pants” has subsided, it’s the other factors that come into play like your intelligence and personality. Great conversation is the key to have people stick around with you. Being boring and blurting out more than necessary is sure to get people running away from you in all directions!
Great conversations are not a one man show. Here are some tried and tested methods to hit the right spot.
Be interesting: It is great to begin with topics that would immediately put someone in the comfort zone. Let others get curious on what you have to say or be happy to drop in their comments. Talk about some unforgettable experiences, inspiring people they met etc
Be fun: Nothing is more attractive than a man/woman who can make you laugh your guts out. Sarcastic and dry humor is not understood by all. Humor is customized. Some may even appreciate your PJ’s!
Let the eyes meet: Eyes do their own talking. The words and the eyes don’t always be in sync. Watch out for those delicate give-aways. Maintain a good eye contact. It will give weightage to whatever you speak.
Don’t be bugging: Showing of your knowledge or being pompous is a great way to repel people. Simple conclusion is that avoid blowing your own trumpet!
Right body language: Your body getting molded the wrong way, every now and then can create a different impression about you in the mind of the opposite person. Even if you are attracted to someone, do not be “explicit” about it. Unless both of you want to let the sparks fly high.
Do not graze on controversial topics: Introduce controversial topics at your own risk like politics, religion or living in. Remember you’re not in some courtroom. However, if revenge is on your mind, go for the kill with words (be well researched though).
Don’t be a moral police: Don’t be judging or recite a well rehearsed piece on ethics. Everyone has a right to live/think their way. Keep your thoughts to yourself.
Listen: Take time to listen to what others have to say. You may learn a lot in this process.
As they say find yourself a mate who you can talk to…that is definitely in my agenda. Imagine an eye candy and disturbing silence… whoa!! That’s it I am running for the rope!
Conversation with our experts at Abhinav can shed a lot of your doubts about immigration. It’s all easy when you get talking!