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22
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I have many married friends who off all the questions have one obvious question for me…that is “When am I getting married?” My answer is very sweet and simple to them, “I am happily single.” It takes a while for them to digest this fact. But its not there fault after all. They have been brought up in such a manner that it seems as a matter of fact and something rather odd in my statement.
Now let’s take the same instance with a slight twist. This time you are asked a question whether you are single or married and you say that you are committed and live with your partner. For your orthodox friends, some of them would sure be horrorstruck while others would react as if you have committed a sin. Most of the unmarried but committed couples out there would surely relate to what I am saying.
This is the clear demarcation in the changing rules of the society – The Old vs. The New! But looking at it with a practical perspective, what is the major difference between married and committed couples? If looked at it in theory, it’s just a matter of certificate. While in practice, there are a number of differences.
The social stigma is the biggest challenge that such couples have to face in a changing society. These tend to creep into daily aspects of life such as renting an apartment. The weary landlords could definitely turn out to be not so enthusiastic about lending their house. So, now with changing times, even they have developed brains to ask for a marriage certificate.
Another instance is easily of the neighbors reacting to it the moment they get to know about it. They might not reciprocate to it that well! But who cares? As far as you are happy with your spouse, nothing in the world seems to matter.
Now, with the Supreme Court backing such couples permitting live-in relationships as not being immoral, it is only a matter of time. More so, it is the financial independence teamed with being out there by self which brings about the zing and excitement for most youngsters. With this, one gets a fair chance to test the waters. What more could one in a relationship ask for?
It might not be that there are hundred percent chances that a relationship would end in wedlock. But then, it would make an individual more responsible and see the other side of the concept. Additionally, he/she would get a fair idea what being married to that person is going to be all about. And so, it definitely gives a chance to know the spouse better as well as the compatibility quotient.
So, whether you tie the knot or not, it depends on you as an adult to decide whether take the plunge which might change your life forever. However, it is important to keep both your head and heart in place before actually jumping to a conclusion. In other words, think it through carefully…Good Luck!
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